So guys it’s like this:
because it seems like you don’t know the situation we are in now as parents, let me describe it to you;

Your children, my children will go to the same school with the children of those girls that dance *sedi bala bala* shameless on social media, you remember those girls wey dey do silhouette challenge, ehn, ehn u don dey get am? or the ones wey dey do crate challenge. Which one again naa remind me biko?

Se o ti Nye yin beyen?

This is a reminder to all good parents out there, please go extra mile! more than any training your parents has given you that made you turn out right, do more, pray more, study your children more, listen to your children more, create time for your children more, know all their friends, know the parents of their friends, know the kind of value those friends have,

*make sure your children trusts you more than they trust their teachers* this is very important
don’t make empty promises that you know you won’t be able to keep to your children, the kids of nowadays are way smarter than us.

Please let them know God for themselves from their tender age, teach them God’s word and most importantly pray ceaselessly for them.

I pray that our children shall be taught of the lord and great shall be their peace.

Thanks, welldone, and shout out to all good parents out there, trying to make sure their children turn out right in this perverse generation. once again I pray that our children shall be taught of the lord and great shall be their peace. AMEN.

Oluwatobi tolulope kolawole

Mrs Deborah Oluwatobi Akano and Mrs Debbie Riches made a very important statement and I will like to place an emphasis on it.

There is a Yoruba adage that says “oju kan ni bimo igba oju Nii baa wo” I. e one person gives birth but 200 people trains the child.

While growing up, I could remember that you dare not do anything wrong in your neighborhood, for fear of being reported.

If you do anything wrong, you know that you are dead. If mum wale did not report you, mum Sola will, or daddy Titi will even punish you or beat you himself.

So you have no option you just have to behave yourself. But nowadays, nobody cares anymore. We see a child misbehaving we turn a blind eye, and that has led the society to where we are today.

Now listen to this, that child that was misbehaving in your neighborhood, and you turned a blind eye will mingle with your children later in life.

So this is the deal, Mrs Deborah Akano said “correct any child you see that is going in the wrong direction, and if you are asked what is your business? tell them it is my business because, this child might mingle with my children one day”

make it your duty to correct those children,

Together, you and I can make this world a better place.

Enough of konko jabele, make it your business, take correcting those little ones your business, you might be saving a destiny from destruction, stop turning a blind eye.

And guess what?

God sees your labour of love and He will reward you accordingly.

still on #parenting

kolawole Tolulope

My younger son did something this morning, and I beat him, then he did something more silly in response to the beating, and I gave him thorough flogging.

This is what happened; he pushed his brother from the edge of a chair and he almost injured him, so I beat him.

In response to the beating he knelt down and raised his hands up, I didn’t even look at him, then he started hitting his Head on the floor, Oh my God! I gave him a thorough beating, he won’t dare try such a thing again in his life.

kekere la tii peka iroko to ba dagba tan apa oni Kaa Mon.( you numb an iroko tree as a seedling, because when it reaches maturity, cutlass and hoe cannot bring it down.)

The main objective of my short story is this;

While growing up, our parents really tried, am talking about the good parents here, they gave us every moral values there is.

Don’t steal, lie, don’t be covetous, don’t be rude e.t.c be good, be respectful,help people in need,be truthful be kind.e.t.c. Some went a bit further, they taught us that there are consequences for all of our actions.

But it seems as though, those moral values did not guide the decisions of some of us, while growing up, some even see it as fallacies. The truth is, what works on one child may not work on the other.

But I have found out that very few of our parents, maybe less than 5% taught us to,

1) learn about our emotions

2) master our emotions

3) channel our emotions in the right direction

4) consequences of mismanaging our emotions

And this is part of the reasons why the society is how it is.

You have a quiet,easy going, gentle child, you believe, my child is good I have no reason to worry, have you taught the child that standing up for his/her self is not bad?

Or your own child gets angry any how, or yours destroy things when they are angry, or yours is indecisive, yours likes keeping to himself,or yours is the life of the party, happy go lucky, yours is fearful, or yours is fearless, your is quiet or yours is a talkative, yours hateful or yours lovely e.t.c.

And because children are not taught to learn about their emotions, master their emotions, channel their emotions rightly, and the consequences of mismanaging their emotions.

They make mistakes that could have been avoided, or they make decisions in the heat of the moment, that will channel the cause of their lives in the the wrong direction for life.

Therefore, you see husbands beating thier wives, and the wives keeping quiet about it , politicians that are wicked, greedy,and selfish, a wicked policeman, a wicked judge inconsiderate market woman, rude customer, destructive citizens, vagabonds, angry people everywhere e. t. c.

I hope we know that all emotions has the good and the bad sides, so why don’t you as a parent make up your mind to know about your child’s emotions, and teach them how to channel it in the right direction.

So parents let’s say this;
I will learn about my child’s emotions, and teach them to do the same
I will teach them to master their emotions
I will teach them to channel their emotions rightly. And
I will teach them the consequences of mismanaging their emotions.



kolawole Tolulope Oluwatobi